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2016-02-16_0005I am excited to tell you about something that happened today! Getting my first little diary back in junior high led me to discover the power of putting words on paper. For all these years most of my writing has been done as  a solitary activity. But I've come to realize that writing with others adds intensity and excitement that stretches me in new ways! For some time I have wished for a group to write with so I took an on-line class last spring with Kira Elliott. Even though I was extremely nervous, I learned a great deal and loved the challenge of writing with other women.

I checked the newspaper and talked with various people hoping to find a gathering of writers here in town. A friend invited me into a group that met monthly, but they met on an evening I was not available.  I continued to look around but I could not find a group that seemed to fit me.

Because I am comfortable teaching and facilitating at House of Hope, I wondered  if there might be other women connected there who would be eager to write with me. I decided that if I couldn't find one already formed, then, by golly, I'd form a group of my own. I met with those brave souls!

  • We introduced ourselves.
  • We wrote.
  • We read aloud what we had written.
  • We told each other what was powerful in our writing; what we liked and what we'll remember.
  • We sighed with relief as we felt the power of affirmation and the satisfaction of learning a bit about bravery, trust and growing together.

Words hold power and I found that one of those positive statements kept replaying itself in my mind throughout the day. Those words were telling me what  I needed to agreement with something that resonated with my heart and gave me a boost of confidence.

If you are looking for a safe and nurturing place in which to write, call House of Hope and join us!  We're gathering on Tuesday mornings from 10:00 to 12:00 and are scheduled to meet for the next four weeks. We'd love to have you join us.

Can you tell I am excited?

i've got your back!

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2016-01-23_0010 Recently I had the joy of telling a group of women about how I keep my heart healthy. It wasn't about changing my diet or increasing exercise, as important as those things are. But it is significant to me...and to my heart.

The language I have come to embrace, to have a healthy heart, is to understand that the younger "me" still resides within the walls of my memory. This little person still holds the hurts, embarrassments, angers, fears and lies that she came to believe in her younger, more naive days. When hurtful words are said or negative thoughts come to mind, this little younger me can rise up and feel the feelings as though they were happening for the first time.

I gathered these women to tell them about how I keep in touch with that little girl, so when something happens, I will be available to her to bring truth. In a way, it is how I tell myself, "I've got your back! I'm here for you. I'm making space for you."

When I asked them how they react when they feel something that needs processing, they told me:

  • I tell myself it is OK to be me.
  • I tell myself I'm not "bossy."
  • I tell myself I did what I knew to do.
  • I tell myself it's ok to feel the way I do.

I agree with all these positive statements and I would add one more deeper level:

Make space in your life where you can have a routine of listening to your heart. That means to quiet yourself everyday and invite God to join you. Decide on a place, a regular time, and bring a notebook and pen. The regularity allows trust to build as you consistently place yourself on your side and not against yourself.

I often start with, "Good morning, Father God!  Help me search out where my heart needs grace today." This is prayer: listening to God's heart for me.

As the words spill onto the paper, how I'm feeling slips out with them. I can speak the truth, remind myself that I am a grace filled person. God can speak because I have invited him in and his voice is full of kindness and understanding. I write until what needs to be said gets written down. This routine enables me to process, to understand, to forgive, to decide to take action among many other things. Once it is written, it is so much easier to deal with.

Have you ever tried to pray like this? It's like listening to God speak. He wants us to know he has our back and is full of grace and love. His kindness allows us to turn around and show ourselves the same kind of love, forgiveness and support.

Keeping my heart healthy is worth the time it takes. How about you? What do you do to keep your heart in top shape?


(By the way, I will be leading a workshop at House of Hope about this very thing on February 27th and March 5th. Go and click on the Morning Pages class to get started! I would love to see you there.)